I was very unhappy when I was married for 11 yrs. to my Ex. We have two children together, and we've been divorced for about 3 yrs. There was no way I could have stayed married to him and wear a plastic smile on my face while continuing to be emotionally abused! This was rubbing off on the kids, plus they didn't deserve a mother that is "half" way there. The example their father was teaching them was horrible! Children pick up on people's moods very easily and the bad energy around them as well.
My children see both of us on a regular basis, and I think this has made a wolrd of difference. I never bad mouth their father (although I think he doesn't give me the same respect back...he's still a JW). They are happy kids and are doing very good in school. The teachers keep me up to date on this and they tell me my kids are kind, always smiling and eager to learn. So far I have not noticed any tramatic change in their character.
Divorce was very painful, but it would have been a lot more painful if I would have stayed. I am a much happier person now, and I really believe I am a better person and more available as a mother for my kids. Home should be a haven, full of peace and joy. This is what I want to give my children.
Edited by - Lost Diamond on 17 October 2002 9:52:47
Edited by - Lost Diamond on 17 October 2002 9:53:47